A holiday miracle: Kentucky couple adopt Native American son in Dickinson
A Kentucky couple received a holiday miracle when they adopted their Native American son this week in Dickinson.
Megan and Tim were driving home Wednesday evening with Takoda, a baby boy born at St. Joseph's Hospital Nov. 23.
"It's a blessing," Tim said.
Megan agreed as they gushed over their new son at Harvest Home, a temporary residence for families with medical needs, in Dickinson on Monday.
"Many times a day we look at him and know how blessed we are," Megan said. "He completes us."
Takoda is a Native American word meaning "friend of everyone," they said.
"We want him to be proud of his heritage," Megan added.
The couple has been married nearly 14 years and used a semi-open adoption, and do not want their last name published.
"My husband and I have been trying to have a child for a little while," Megan said. "We were unsuccessful on our own. So we said 'we don't have to give birth to a child ourselves, we just want to parent a child.'"
They were open to babies whose ethnicities differed from their own and were elated when they were matched with Takoda.
"We said God would choose for us," Megan said.
Takoda wasn't due until December, but arrived a little early, she said. Her father predicted Takoda's arrival while making Thanksgiving plans.
"I said we'll be coming up for Thanksgiving tomorrow," Megan said. "He said 'now that you plan to drive up here, you'll probably get a call that the baby's here,' and we did that evening. We weren't able to go to Thanksgiving but we had the best Thanksgiving ever."
The couple was on the road within hours and took turns making the 21-hour drive.
"We drove straight through all night, caffeine and all," Megan said.
She and Tim were able to meet Takoda's birth mother, who chose them to adopt her son.
"We're very blessed for that and we do believe that God had a big part in this," Megan said. "This is the right baby for us."
Tim and Megan will continue communicating with Takoda's birth mother through the adoption agency.
"She is very nice and a very good person," Megan said.
Karen Nissly, owner of Graceful Adoptions which facilitated Takoda's adoption, said the process is difficult.
The state where the adoptive parents reside must first approve them for adoption, which can take two to four months, she said.
"It's a social, medical, financial and criminal background check -- it's incredibly invasive," Nissly said. "You're basically insuring that the parents are physically, mentally and emotionally prepared to parent an adopted child."
Adoption agencies then have many hurdles to clear. Each one has different requirements from religious involvement to marriage status and income, Nissly said.
"Typically you hear of three-year waits for domestic adoptions," she said. "Our average wait for children is nine months."
Tim and Megan said it took about nine months from the time they filled out paperwork to when Takoda was in their arms.
"It's a tremendous experience," Tim said.