Brian Terry Gravning
Service of Remembrance for Brian Terry Gravning, 52, of rural Hettinger, ND, were Sunday, February 11, 2018 at 2:00 p.m. at the Hettinger Lutheran Church in Hettinger, ND. Pastor Tom Davis did officiate and burial followed at the Richland Cemetery near his home. Visitation was from 3:00 to 7:00 p.m. on Saturday, February 10, followed by a Gathering of Family and Friends at 7:00 p.m., all at the Centennial Chapel of Evanson Jensen Funeral Homes in Hettinger,ND.
Brian Terry Gravning, 52, took his life on Tuesday, February 6, 2018 at his farm North of Hettinger. Brian was born December 4, 1965 in Hettinger, ND. He grew up on the farm and after watching the clock tick for 12 years, as he would say, he graduated from Hettinger High School in 1984. After high school, he continued to live his passion for growing things on the family farm until the day he passed. Brian married Libby Yri on July 28th, 2001 and he gained an instant family - "his girls" Paige and Kaycee.
Brian could usually be found seeding, spraying, combining, in a tractor, checking the fields or working in the shop. When he wasn't working, he enjoyed doing projects, flying his plane, riding dirt bike with his dog Misty, watching funny TV shows and movies, researching and gaining new knowledge, eating Reese's peanut butter cups, and most of all he enjoyed family time with his wife, kids, grandkids and parents. His grandbabies Madalynn and Charleigh brought him more joy than anything. With them living so far away in Kansas, "FaceTiming" or even looking at pictures and watching videos of them would put a smile on his face on the worst of days.
Brian was a lifelong sufferer of depression and anxiety. As loved as he was, every single day was a struggle for him. He fought endlessly to beat the illness that burdened him. He tried numerous different treatments, as extreme as ketamine infusions, electroconvulsive therapy, and inpatient treatment among counseling and medications over the years, to no avail. So many had no idea, but those that did never stopped trying to save him. He will be so missed, but the people who love him have peace in knowing he will never suffer another day.
His death means so much more than just tragedy. It has brought the people that care about him from far and wide together in celebration of the great person he was in spite of his illness. It proves no matter how bad it seems or how hopeless you might feel, you are never alone. If you are struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts, know there is always someone who cares and needs you in this world. You should never have to feel embarrassed or ashamed, it's not worth it to the people that love you to hide anything. Please reach out for help. Despite the shortage in mental health care providers, there is always someone who cares and will listen. No one should have to experience such pain, his then or ours now. We can only pray that he finally found his "uncloudy day".
In lieu of flowers, a Memorial is being set up to help fund a peer support group and a family support group in the area in Brian's honor.
Brian is survived by his wife, Libby Gravning, daughters, Paige (Brandon) Byler, Ellinwood, KS and Kaycee Schwind, Fargo, ND, his parents, Terry and Myrna Gravning, Hettinger, ND, brother, Greg Gravning, Hettinger, ND, two granddaughters, Madalynn and Charleigh Byler, nephew Gabe (Steph) Gravning, Bismarck, ND, niece, Amanda Gravning, Bismarck, ND, great nephew, Abraham Gravning and great niece, Abigail Gravning; mother-in-law, Maxine Yri, Maddock, ND; sister & brother-in-law, Carol & Doug Eriksmoen, Grand Forks, ND, sister-in-law, Vicki Walker, Luverne, MN, brother & sister-in-law, Curtis & Terry Yri, Maddock, ND, brother & sister-in-law, Dale & Linette Yri, Minnewaukan, ND, brother & sister-in-law, Arthur & Diane Yri, Kapolei, HI, brother & sister-in-law, Vernon & Kami Yri, Bismarck, ND.
Brian was preceded in death by both grandparents, Earl and Virginia Meisner and Melvin and Thelma Gravning and father-in-law, Victor Yri.
Condolences may be sent through our website at www.evansonjensenfuneralhome.com.